Column: Husband provides constant reminders of love

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Lorna Marquardt

A mayor is often asked to issue a proclamation. The city has a book with examples of proclamations for most occasions. I often chose to write my own. I felt if I was going to sign my name to it, and it was going to be stamped with the official seal of the city, I wanted to be the author.

While in office I sometimes wrote personal proclamations upon request. In fact, I wrote one that I gave to my hubby several years ago on our wedding anniversary. It is framed and displayed in our home, a reminder of how God has blessed our marriage. It says:

WHEREAS, we met, fell in love, and on Feb. 1, 1964 we married, and

WHEREAS, on Nov. 19, 1964 we were blessed with our first born, a beautiful daughter we named Amy; and

WHEREAS, on March 12, 1969 we were blessed once more, this time with the birth of our loving son Daniel; and

WHEREAS, our lives have been enriched with three wonderful grandchildren, Jeffrey, Morgan and Mason; and

WHEREAS, you are a kind, hard-working, humble man; and

WHEREAS, you are a loving husband who cherishes and respects me and accepts me as I am.

NOW, THEREFORE, I, Lorna S. Marquardt, by the powers invested in me as Mayor of the City of Shawano, do hereby proclaim you, Donald J. Marquardt, my best friend, the “love of my life” and my life-long partner.

Given under my hand and the seal of the City of Shawano this 1st day of February, 2003.

My hubby and I celebrated our 54th anniversary earlier this week.

I can vividly remember when my in-laws, Clarence and Irene Marquardt, celebrated their 50th. We surprised them with a party. I recall how “adorable” we thought they were when they danced while Cliff Elertson played a waltz. We clapped when they shared an affectionate kiss.

Admittedly, we thought of them as “quite old.” Now we are them! How time passes. It’s funny, when you arrive at this age, you don’t really think of yourselves that way, even though your body is well aware of the years it has been around.

We married young. The dream of marriage was soon replaced with the reality of marriage. Over the years, sometimes we disagreed. He spent a few nights on the couch, and I spent a few days not speaking to him. We grew and we learned to forgive. Although there were times in our 54 years of marriage we didn’t particularly like one another, we were always in love.

My hubby and I agree we both need our own space. Togetherness 24/7 is not for us. I’m glad he drives cab in the morning. I want to quietly wake up with a cup of coffee. I am in a much better frame of mind as the day goes on. He is a morning person and he enjoys getting out and meeting and visiting with his customers.

Over the years, little things remind me of why I fell in love with him and why that love still exists after all these years. A few months ago was just one example.

He came home from driving cab and told me what a sweet little girl he took to school in the cab.

He said: “When we arrived at Hillcrest, she asked me if I would walk her up to her school’s door like all the other dads.”

I inquired: “What did you do?”

He replied: “Well, I parked the cab. She held her hand out to me, and I walked with her to the door.”

As he was telling me this story, I thought to myself: “No wonder I love you so much.”

Statistics are interesting; 55 percent of all married couples have been married for at least 15 years, while 35 percent have celebrated their 25th anniversaries, and 6 percent have made it more than 50 years.

Clearly, not all couples are meant to live their lives together. People grow apart, and sometimes things are just not meant to be.

I feel extremely blessed that I found my soulmate when I was young. It was love at first sight. We are not a perfect couple. We are an imperfect couple who learned to enjoy our differences. I wouldn’t trade even one minute of my marriage. Our wedding was many years ago. The celebration continues to this day.

Happy anniversary, honey!

Lorna Marquardt is a former Shawano mayor.